Matter of Choice

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What makes you Happy?

Recently, I have been reading a book by a Harvard professor Dan Gilbert– the book is called
Stumbling on Happiness.

He explains when asked what makes people happy they typically don’t answer correctly.

There are 3 traps that we fall into, unwittingly making yourself unhappy.

1– Postponing happiness.  The when I (fill in the blank), I will be happy syndrome. Happiness isn’t something we can acquire in the future.  You are either happy now or not; because “then” never gets here.

I loved his quote: “NOW is the only time you have to be happy. If you can’t be happy now, you most certainly wont be happy later.”

2– Spending our lives hoping to make others happy.  We all know that other people can’t make us happy why do we think WE can make others happy?

3– The last happiness trap we fall into is contrast. Typically people judge their happiness by the illusion of what they think gives others happiness. We only know how to judge something by comparing it to something else or others.

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Prof. Gilbert believes that bottom line happiness creates. It is not derived from the outside; it is only derived from within. It’s a state of mind that we choose.

I am firm believer that no matter our circumstance there is always something to be grateful for.

Having an attitude for Gratitude is my goal.  Of course my camera assists me and often I am able to savor the moment and revisit.

This time of season when people ask me what my New Years Resolutions are– I simply reply that my goal is to live in the moment. Find the joy, the passion and contentment in my life this moment and enjoy my Happiness.

What makes you happy?

I would love for you to share…

As always — visit Beverly at Pink Saturday.

And… Mary at Little Red house on Monday.

May you ring in the near year with joy and happiness!  🙂

See you next year!  (I love saying that!)

Claudia

PS — thanks for the patience on my programing of this post.  Ughh.. techie I am NOT!

 

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December 31, 2010 at 3:24 pm | Uncategorized | 29 comments

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29 responses to “Matter of Choice”

  1. Jil says:

    Happy New Year!
    Jil
    xo

  2. Marydon says:

    Claudia ~ I love the figurines, so darling.

    I wish you the best of joys, life & loves this New Year.
    Happy New Year!
    TTFN ~ Hugs, Marydon

  3. Holly says:

    Love the picture of the figurines!
    Happy Pink Saturday!

  4. char says:

    Wishing you and yours a very Happy New Year and Pink Saturday, Char

  5. Sherry says:

    Happy New Year Claudia Sweetie…
    What a gorgeous share. I love the little couple.
    They are so cute bundled up on that little sled.
    Love the snowflakes in the background as well.
    Love the touches of pink love against their
    Winter white color. So beautiful.

    I have so enjoyed blogging with you this year.
    You are such a wonderful treasure sweetie, and
    each time you post it is a special gift of love. I
    can’t wait to see what 2011 brings for us.

    I so wanted to talk to you this year, but my voice
    is still pretty bad. I am not sure you could understand
    me. I am slowly moving out into the world, some days
    I do better than others.

    I wish love, peace and joy for you sweet Claudia. May God
    richly bless you and your family this New Year 2011. You
    have certainly made mine richer.

    Many hugs and SO much love, Sherry

  6. Holly says:

    oops, never mind my email to you – i just refreshed the page and it loaded correctly.  sigh…a techie I am not either…but, we are still happy. =0)

  7. Marydon says:

    I am back Claudia … what a FABULOUS share … very moving, realistic & tender.
    Thank you for sharing these beautiful provoking thoughts. I still love your figurines, tho.
    Hugs, HAPPY NEW YEAR ~
    Marydon

  8. Debbie says:

    What a great post! I have chosen HAPPY to be my One Little Word for 2011. Please stop by to read my post about it.
     
    HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
     
    Hugs,
    Debbie

  9. LisaKay says:

    I loved your post and I agree wholeheartedly with the author’s interpretation of the happiness trap. I loved your picture of the figurines!  Have a wonderful New Year.
    Hugs, LisaKay

  10. Happier Than A Pig in Mud says:

    What a neat p0st! Happy New Year:@)

  11. Sounds like a wonderful book.  I’m going to see if my library might have it.  Your snow pictures are beautiful! 

    Wishing you a blessed and happy New Year!
    Sherry @ A Happy Valentine

  12. Claudia,
    Words to live by. Your winter collage is beautiful. Just looking at it induces a feeling of peace.
    I wish you a happy, healthy new year.
    Your Friend,
    Deborah

  13. Donnie says:

    #1-That I am forgiven. #2- that I try to forgive myself and others.  I loved your post.  Have a Happy Pink New Year.

  14. Dru says:

    I loved your post as I truly believe one is totally responsible for their own happiness by appreciating the simple, beautiful, and gentler things in life. Not that there are not outside influences or circumstances that weigh in on us at times, but just generally having a positive outlook and yes, living and appreciating the moments and people in life that are truly meaningful. Happy New Year and Happy Pink Saturday!  

  15. Nerina says:

    Claudia,
    Thank you for infusing beauty into my life everyday! Your photos truly make me happy and I don’t have the opportunity to comment as often as I would like! I have read that wonderful book and love the way you have summed it up in your wishes for 2011. Happiness is something that we all deserve and should just relax a bit and enjoy being!!
    Wishing you many hours of joy, passion and contentment xOxO Nerina

  16. Catlyn Berry says:

    Wonderful post! Happy New Year!
    Hugs’
    Catlyn

  17. Going to look for that book. Thank you for sharing.  Happy Pink New Years!

  18. anita rivera says:

    Dearest Claudia,
     
    It is always a joy to meet new people that either come to me, or that I discover myself. Thank you for leaving a comment on my BLUE POST….no, unfortunately, I did not take all of those pictures in the header. Those are all from TUMBLR! But blue is a happy color, and how ironic that you should be posting on happiness. I do believe that HAPPINESS comes from within us, that eternal JOYOMETER that God has given us Himself, but that we need to cultivate. Love is the only answer for our doubts and grumpy moments….your prof was right…
     
    I wish you a most happy 2011 and I REALLY DO HOPE that our paths cross this year! Anita

  19. Karen Cox says:

    First I want to say Happy New Year!  I totally agree with those points.  I think I came to terms with lots of  impressions on this subject when I turned 50.  I read a great book by Kim McMillan.  That was the  year that I discovered the only person I can truly make happy is myself.  Being grateful is key, and acceptance is another biggy.  Accepting people around us as they are and accepting our strengths and weaknesses.  The most important thing is to live in the moment and literally take one day at a time.  It’s always great to have a positive inner voice, which gives no room for worry anxiety or anything unpleasant.  Having faith in God and knowing that He loves us is the happiest medicine of all!
    Wishing you the best New Year ever!
    Karen

  20. Tracy says:

    What a great post!  Love your blog.  I’ll be back to visit again!
    Tracy (whirlygirl/picture winter)
     

  21. Dena E says:

    These blue images are gorgeous btw…
    Blessings Dena

  22. Snap says:

    Such beauty in your images and words. Happy New Year!

  23. Jillian says:

    A lot of good points here! Hope you have a happy new year!

  24. Valerie says:

    Interesting post on happiness. Your mosaic photos are gorgeous.

  25. Claudia, this is a wonderful post!  I hope you don’t mind but I am going to share your words on a post and will definitely let everyone know who said them and invite them to visit you.  Your pictures are amazing and…so…..cold! brrrrrrr….I am freezing with just a teeny bit of snow in Southern Utah and our temps have been low 30’s and upper 20’s!  For the desert, that is cold!  Have a Happy New Year!

  26. eileen says:

    A wonderful post,  Claudia!  I am with you, live for the moment. I wish you all the best in 2011 and a very Healthy and HAPPY New Years.

  27. Sheila says:

    Your mosaic is so striking.  Hope 2011 is a wonderful year for you!

  28. Michelle says:

    Great post!
     
    Happy New Year!!

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