What makes you Happy?
Recently, I have been reading a book by a Harvard professor Dan Gilbert– the book is called
Stumbling on Happiness.
He explains when asked what makes people happy they typically don’t answer correctly.
There are 3 traps that we fall into, unwittingly making yourself unhappy.
1– Postponing happiness. The when I (fill in the blank), I will be happy syndrome. Happiness isn’t something we can acquire in the future. You are either happy now or not; because “then” never gets here.
I loved his quote: “NOW is the only time you have to be happy. If you can’t be happy now, you most certainly wont be happy later.”
2– Spending our lives hoping to make others happy. We all know that other people can’t make us happy why do we think WE can make others happy?
3– The last happiness trap we fall into is contrast. Typically people judge their happiness by the illusion of what they think gives others happiness. We only know how to judge something by comparing it to something else or others.
Prof. Gilbert believes that bottom line happiness creates. It is not derived from the outside; it is only derived from within. It’s a state of mind that we choose.
I am firm believer that no matter our circumstance there is always something to be grateful for.
Having an attitude for Gratitude is my goal. Of course my camera assists me and often I am able to savor the moment and revisit.
This time of season when people ask me what my New Years Resolutions are– I simply reply that my goal is to live in the moment. Find the joy, the passion and contentment in my life this moment and enjoy my Happiness.
What makes you happy?
I would love for you to share…
As always — visit Beverly at Pink Saturday.
And… Mary at Little Red house on Monday.
May you ring in the near year with joy and happiness! 🙂
See you next year! (I love saying that!)
PS — thanks for the patience on my programing of this post. Ughh.. techie I am NOT!
Since January 1st 2010 -- I have been celebrating finding Beauty in our every day lives. Stay in the Day... be in the moment. Don't wait to live your life.
Stop and make a habit to find the Beauty and you will be amazed at how Beautiful your life is. Be thankful and remember:
"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Dyer