Belated Thank You

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This past Sunday, a client, who I now call “friend” dropped by with a lovely bouquet of flowers.

The colors were stunning and a much needed lift to our dawdling Spring.

Her thoughtful gift reminded me of how blessed I have been in the last months with friends reaching out to comfort me after my darling sister Sharon’s passing.

I have been remiss in sending my appreciations.

Deborah from Fairfield house sent me a gorgeous pendant. Deborah and I both lost a loved one around the same time and she is a much better person than myself, as in her grief she reached out to me. Words of thanks seem to fall short but do not diminish my appreciation.


i carry your heart with me (i carry it in my heart)

i am never without it (anywhere i go you go, my dear; and

whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling)

i fear

no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want

no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)

and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant

and whatever a sun will always sing is you


here is the deepest secret nobody knows

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud

and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows

higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)

and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry you heart (i carry it in my heart)

e e cummings

I have attached her pendant to one Sharon gave me for a birthday– now it’s perfect.


Probably one of Sharon’s best friends and my newest “sister” Linda B sent the above card.

She is a school teacher and Sharon had the pleasure to “help” in the class a couple of times a month.

These children loved my sister and reached out to me after Linda explained of how sad we all were.  Sharon loved butterflies and as you can see they created a card with their beautiful butterflies for me.

I am going to have it framed.


As I pondered the time it took  for each person’s effort…I appreciate  the gifts, and cards so much more.  They are sincerely thought FULL and heart felt.

The notes on facebook, email and comments on my blog were overwhelming with love and support.

Many of your lives were touched by Sharon as she was  one of the most giving and loving people that walked this earth.  I have so much to learn from her still.  She inspired me always.

The efforts of so many in Billings were such a testament to the love you all have for my sister and her family.

The food that was brought into the house and served at the funeral, the service of speaking, singing and organization  and housing a longtime friend are gifts that will inspire me to be a better person as life moves forward.

My gratitude can really never be expressed adequately.

Sharon’s sister in law has been such a precious person.  She has been there not only for her brother and nephews but has reached out to make sure my heart was ok.  She sent me two of Sharon’s favorite bunnies.  They will reside right next to my bed and in my heart.


Simply stated, this new precious gift is so true.

My heart is very full of love and gratitude.

As I shared at the funeral… We all learned something very important by her sudden passing.

There is no time to wait to say:

“I love you.”

“I forgive you.”

“I am sorry.”

We  don’t have the promise of tomorrow only today.




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April 12, 2011 at 2:41 pm | Family | 7 comments


7 responses to “Belated Thank You”

  1. wendy says:

    It certainly helps us along our path of grief when we have these wonderful people around “surprising” us always with thoughtful gestures. Be it a gift, a card, a call, a hug….a memory.
    I’ll never forget when my son died in November, I had 7 blogger friends who showed up at the viewing. Totally surprised me!!!!!!!!! 4 of them I had not yet even met in person….only through blogging.
    I am still “learning” how to deal with the grief issues. So it really helps when people think to show love towards you.
    I feel remis in probably NOT sending you more thoughts of love and saddness at the passing of your sister. I remember seeing the photo of her and she was indeed beautiful!!
    So, Please accept my prayers and thoughts on your behalf. I Know you will carry her joyful spirit with you all the days of your life. HUGS!!!

  2. Claudie says:

    Oh Sweet Friend of mine…
    I’m just happy that I know you. I only wish I could have met your sweet sister.
    I know you are still grieving, I know you are hurting, I know you miss your sis, and I know deep down that time will heal your broken heart.
    We love you. We are always here. Any time any day.
    I also carry your heart with me. What a beautiful gift.
    See you in 6 short months : )

  3. Sherri@lavenderfields says:

    Those were beautiful words Claudia. 3 years ago I lost my Mom and we were super close. I still get days where it actually hurts I miss her so much. Shortly after she passed away I was looking out my window with my Ipod on and a Blue Jay flew right up to my window and just sat there and stared at me. They are usually so timid. Right then a Bob Seger song came on. I have copied and carried the words with me wherever I go.

    In your time
    The innocence will fall away
    In your time
    The mission bells will toll
    All along
    The corridors and river beds
    There’ll be sign
    In your time

    Towering waves
    Will crash across your southern capes
    Massive storms
    Will reach your eastern shores
    Fields of green

    Will tumble through your summer days
    By design
    In your time

    Feel the wind
    And set yourself the bolder course
    Keep your heart
    As open as a shrine
    You’ll sail the perfect line

    And after all
    The dead ends and the lessons learned
    After all
    The stars have turned to stone
    There’ll be peace
    Across the great unbroken void
    All benign
    In your time
    You’ll be fine
    In your time

    I knew right then I would be fine…In my time. XO

  4. Dotti says:

    Beautiful, Claudia, My Friend.

  5. LindaB. says:

    Your heartfelt expressions of gratitude reminded me once again how embracing joy heals depression and that God in His grace always provides “stepping stones” for us each and every day. Marianne Williamson writes, “Life is like a piece of wet clay, and every thought we think gives it shape. A happy life can have sad days, but when you’ve mastered the fundamentals of a basically happy worldview, you attract more situations that prove your worldview correct. And what could be a happier worldview than that love is real and nothing else exists?” Love is the cirlce story that never ends. Love, LindaB.

  6. Jacque says:

    Claudia, what a beautiful post. You are such a wonderful person and I wish I could do more for you. I’m sure the hole that is left by Sharon feels like a chasm. But I hope that time and memories will build a bridge across that chasm made of flowers and butterflies and all the beautiful times that you both shared. And one day you will find that the bridge is just a beautiful passageway into the heart of another–like a small arched bridge over a tiny stream of tears. And life will be more exquisite because of knowing her, loving her, and losing her. Gibran said that the more that pain carves into our being, the more joy we can contain. I think it’s true, but it’s so tough while the carving is taking place. I pray that you can find peace. And on a different note, opportunity and success!
    love ya!

  7. Dear Claudia,

    Your sister and my young nephew died the same day from the same horrid disease.

    I still (and will always) have moments of recollection that leave me with tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat. But as I sobbed the day he died I HEARD him and the echoed words comfort me: “Don’t cry Aunt Debbie. I’m free. I’m finally home.”
    I know that death is only the end of this life. It is the beginning of a life in eternal love.
    I know it is not goodbye, just: “See ya later, alligator!”

    I am glad you are surrounded by so many friends and so much love.

    Your Friend,

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